Saturday, March 12, 2005

Porn and its consequences

God is very predictable. In establishing a world based on natural consequences, there is this remarkable pattern. When a society chooses to take a new path into sin, the impact is not really seen for a generation. After 25 or 30 years the culture wakes up to the toll that the sin is taking, but now it is very hard to turn people away from what they are in bondage to.

The most recent example of this was the sexual revolution of 1967-1970. Many who have studied this time period have stated that never before in human history has a society changed so radically in such a short period of time. In just three years sex went from being something reserved for marriage for the vast majority of the population to a casual part of relating to someone you just met. Living in sin with an unmarried person of the opposite sex went from being unheard of to being common. Attending an X rated movie in 1965 was for perverts who snuck into art houses. In 1969 it was for Mr. and Mrs. Suburbia.

Thirty years later in the 90’s, the results were in. Teen pregnancies out of wedlock at all time highs. Fatherless households. Kids running wild. Sexual disease destroying lives. President of the US declaring oral copulation to not fit the definition of sex. Kids hooking up with perfect strangers just for sex.

Now comes the latest example. I have studied human sexual behavior my entire life, and the following information shocked me. If it doesn’t shock you, then it may be that for our society it is too late. Twenty years ago pornography began to become pervasive in society. The internet changed everything.

Many young single men are reporting that they no longer desire sex with “flesh-and-blood” women. They can get better sex by themselves with their computer than with a real woman, and they don’t have to take risks or be relational.

Many young single women are reporting that they are being coerced into doing “the things women do on internet porn” to satisfy their boyfriends, dates, ... oh, and husbands.

Young women who are advertising their availability on internet dating sites often include a list of the sexual things they are into or willing to do. . . to get a date.

Married men, some of whom from time immemorial may have used self-satisfaction for those times when their wife was not “meeting their needs” are now replacing their wives with internet sex. Sometimes the husbands are even letting their wives know of their “hobby.”

Married women who may have occasionally found themselves self-satisfying with soap opera’s or dime novels are now visiting chat rooms and dating services to get into steamy conversations with real men. And 25-30% of the visitors to internet porn sites are women.

Marriages are breaking up over the above. I am a witness to this fact. Psychiatrists report increasing numbers of men coming into their offices because of their inability to relate sexually to real women.

Why this post at this time?

1. Western Civilization is not likely to be destroyed by invading hoards. It will probably not die out from some new disease. We probably will not run out of food, fuel, clean air, or water. It is much more likely that we will die from cancer, a cancer of our hearts, souls, and spirits. We need to do all of the following to prevent such an occurrence.
2. Take a look at our own behavior and the behavior of our loved ones. Do any of the above statements apply to you? To your husband, wife, son, daughter, grandchild, sister, brother, friend, brother or sister in Christ? You should take action immediately.

3. If you are doing internet porn, or any porn, you need help NOW! It is a devastating sin, and it is very progressive. E-mail me now! (Randy_Kirk@Californiasprings.com) Lets talk about it. If you are too embarrassed to use your real name, go get yourself a free e-mail and you can be anonymous.

4. If you have children, just point blank ask them if they are doing the things above. Only 5% of parents ever talk to their kids about sex. Parents give their teens plenty of instructions about how to drive a car, but nothing about how to stay pure. Have the talk today. If you find out that one of your children is hooked on porn, have them e-mail me. (Randy_Kirk@Californiasprings.com) I will help. Make sure that you are checking up on their internet habits. Check the histories. Put on filters. Only allow the computers to be used in public parts of the house. Outlaw movie cable channels and MTV in your home.

5. If one of your single friends is having these problems, you need to confront them in love. They are going to have serious regrets. In fact, they are probably feeling dirty, and guilty, and miserable now.

6. Pray for our country. Pray that our leaders will address these issues. Pray that maybe Hollywood will become as incensed about all this distractive sexual behavior as they are about saving trees or outlawing guns.

7. Tell anyone who is in bondage to this material that there is forgiveness in Christ, and that they need to ask forgiveness and turn from this sin. Many, many parishioners, church leaders, and pastors are in bondage to internet porn. Make sure that your brother or sister in Christ is truly saved. Are they going to repent?

2 comments:

Wayne Moran said...

Randy,
You hit the nail on the head. The problem of pornography is pervasive and many in the church have no idea it is going on. On the other hand, many in the church are deeply involved. I see a couple of causes for this problem.
1. Sex is not understood as the beautiful incredible gift from God that it is. It is often looked upon (even in marriage) as a dirty sinful taboo subject that can not be discussed and enjoyed even within the context of marriage.
2. Sin: the powerful nature of the sexual drive pulls both men and women toward an illegitimate outlet for a God given drive.
3. The concept of erotica is not used appropriately within marriage. Married couples should be writing there own hot love letters to each other. In a great marriage the sexual passion for one another should be so stoked that there would be no time or interest in anyone else.
4. In our selfish me society we are more interested in fulfilling our own needs than the needs of our spouses.

This conversation can be plumbed to great depths. Good luck in directing it.

Anonymous said...

Edward Gibbon on the fall of rome.

1. The breakdown of the family structure
2. The weakening of a sense of individual responsibility
3. excessive taxes and government control and intervention
4. seeking pleasures that became increasingly hedonistic, violent, and immoral.
5. the decline of religion.

deja vu?