Sunday, July 02, 2006

Divorce and Lawyers - Explosive Mix

You and your spouse are thinking about divorce. Maybe things are way past the "thinking about it" phase, and one of you just wants out. Generally in such a situation, one or both of you is also angry. Other emotions might include hurting, vengeful, scared, worried, anxious, and/or bitter. The last thing you need in this situation is two attorneys whose job descriptions require them to be an advocate for you against your spouse. Even if you hire the most empathetic and understanding attorney in your town, it is his job to protect you at the "expense" of your spouse. The only result in such a situation is increased anger, bitterness, etc.

So stop for a minute and contemplate what the goal should be for your divided family. I would hope you would want to reduce or eliminate all those negative emotions for everyone concerned, and that should the divorce actually go through, you could be on 100% friendly terms with your ex. This would be the best outcome for your emotional health, and it will be the best for everyone else involved.

The first step to such a storybook ending is staying away from lawyers. But this can be a bit tricky, because it is very important the both of you agree to not lawyer up. The most likely way to accomplish this goal will be contained in the rest of this series of posts.

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